This One’s for the Girls
Ladies, what does it take to find a good friend? I mean the kind of friend that you can call to watch your kids in the middle of the night? I mean the kind of friend that puts up with your bad habits and still wants to hang out all day. I mean the kind of friend that can hear your beat down tone of voice over the phone and who shows up with your exact coffee order.
You don’t have a friend like that you say? You don’t know where do you start?
This kind of deep friendship is built one conversation at a time.
When was the last time you attended a women’s event? When was the last time you invited someone to coffee? When was the last time you allowed yourself to be vulnerable in conversation?
I know these things are risky. I know you’ve been hurt before. I’m sorry that happened to you. The hurt makes us shut down and close off and say no more.
What’s worse is that I can offer you no guarantees. No money back. No safety net of perfect connections.
The only thing I can offer is a promise that it’s worth it and a suggestion that we are called to cultivate friendship.
It’s worth it to lean back into that conversation. It’s worth it to attend that event. You are doing the work of cultivation every time you engage another person.
Every time you say yes to attending that event (when you would have preferred to not risk it), you are saying yes to potential new friendship.
I’m not promising you’ll walk away with a new bestie by night’s end. No. But, you may have started a conversation with someone that will eventually become the person you call in the middle of the night.
Lindsey Ungs
Connection & Communication Architect
